neobi
12-03-2006, 11:27 PM
Okay, I at one time read a whole book on this, but let's see where everyone falls. And if they have the characteristics of the 4 main types
Some attributes refer to when you were younger etc...
Only Child~
Likes being the center of adult attention. Often has difficulty sharing with siblings and peers. Prefers adult company and uses adult language.
Pampered and spoiled.
Feels incompetent because adults are more capable.
Is center of attention;
often enjoys position. May feel special.
Self-centered.
Relies on service from others rather than own efforts.
Feels unfairly treated when doesn't get own way. May refuse to cooperate.
Plays "divide and conquer" to get own way.
May have poor peer relations as child but better relations as adult.2
Pleases other only when wants to.
Creative
May have striving characteristics of oldest and inadequacy feelings and demands of youngest.
Oldest~
May become authoritarian or strict. Feels power is his right. Can become helpful if encouraged. May turn to father after birth of next child.
Is only child for period of time; used to being center
of attention.
Believes must gain and hold superiority over other children.
Being right, controlling often important.
May respond to birth of second child by feeling unloved and neglected.
Strives to keep or regain parents' attention through conformity.
If this failed, chooses to misbehave.
May develop competent, responsible behavior or become very discouraged.
Sometime strives to protect and help others.
Strives to please.
Middle~
May be even-tempered, "take it or leave it" attitude. May have trouble finding a place or become a fighter of injustice.
Has neither rights of oldest nor privileges of youngest. Feels life is unfair.
Feels unloved, left out, "squeezed."
Feels doesn't have place in family.
Becomes discouraged and "problem child" or elevates self by pushing down other siblings.
Is adaptable. Learns to deal with both oldest and youngest sibling.
Youngest~
Wants to be bigger than the others. May have huge plans that never work out. Can stay the "baby." Frequently spoiled.Behaves like only child. Feels every one bigger and more capable.
Expects others to do things, make decisions, take responsibility.
Feels smallest and weakest. May not be taken seriously.
Becomes boss of family in getting service and own way.
Develops feelings of inferiority or becomes "speeder" and overtakes older siblings.
Remains "The Baby." Places others in service.
If youngest of three, often allies with oldest child against middle child.
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As for me I'm the youngest. I have two older brothers. I hate the whole "baby" in the family ideology and thus have become very independent. Other than many I'd be completely fine living by myself: cooking, cleaning, being on time, learning, getting stuff started etc...
I really enjoyed last year being the only kid at home, but now with Jhon my foreign exchange bro it's back to square one. I tend to be really bossy with him, but only because can get stupid and annoying, and I'd go crazy if I didn't tell him off every now and then. It's weird having him, even though he's a month older. I feel like the older brother, keeping him in line.
I've benefitted a lot from being the youngest. My oldest bro made a lot of mistakes...mistakes I'll never have to make thanks to his example. I got the house to myself for a few years. And my other bro's never had a computer with cable internet and all the stuff I got here now.
Some attributes refer to when you were younger etc...
Only Child~
Likes being the center of adult attention. Often has difficulty sharing with siblings and peers. Prefers adult company and uses adult language.
Pampered and spoiled.
Feels incompetent because adults are more capable.
Is center of attention;
often enjoys position. May feel special.
Self-centered.
Relies on service from others rather than own efforts.
Feels unfairly treated when doesn't get own way. May refuse to cooperate.
Plays "divide and conquer" to get own way.
May have poor peer relations as child but better relations as adult.2
Pleases other only when wants to.
Creative
May have striving characteristics of oldest and inadequacy feelings and demands of youngest.
Oldest~
May become authoritarian or strict. Feels power is his right. Can become helpful if encouraged. May turn to father after birth of next child.
Is only child for period of time; used to being center
of attention.
Believes must gain and hold superiority over other children.
Being right, controlling often important.
May respond to birth of second child by feeling unloved and neglected.
Strives to keep or regain parents' attention through conformity.
If this failed, chooses to misbehave.
May develop competent, responsible behavior or become very discouraged.
Sometime strives to protect and help others.
Strives to please.
Middle~
May be even-tempered, "take it or leave it" attitude. May have trouble finding a place or become a fighter of injustice.
Has neither rights of oldest nor privileges of youngest. Feels life is unfair.
Feels unloved, left out, "squeezed."
Feels doesn't have place in family.
Becomes discouraged and "problem child" or elevates self by pushing down other siblings.
Is adaptable. Learns to deal with both oldest and youngest sibling.
Youngest~
Wants to be bigger than the others. May have huge plans that never work out. Can stay the "baby." Frequently spoiled.Behaves like only child. Feels every one bigger and more capable.
Expects others to do things, make decisions, take responsibility.
Feels smallest and weakest. May not be taken seriously.
Becomes boss of family in getting service and own way.
Develops feelings of inferiority or becomes "speeder" and overtakes older siblings.
Remains "The Baby." Places others in service.
If youngest of three, often allies with oldest child against middle child.
~~~~~~~~~~
As for me I'm the youngest. I have two older brothers. I hate the whole "baby" in the family ideology and thus have become very independent. Other than many I'd be completely fine living by myself: cooking, cleaning, being on time, learning, getting stuff started etc...
I really enjoyed last year being the only kid at home, but now with Jhon my foreign exchange bro it's back to square one. I tend to be really bossy with him, but only because can get stupid and annoying, and I'd go crazy if I didn't tell him off every now and then. It's weird having him, even though he's a month older. I feel like the older brother, keeping him in line.
I've benefitted a lot from being the youngest. My oldest bro made a lot of mistakes...mistakes I'll never have to make thanks to his example. I got the house to myself for a few years. And my other bro's never had a computer with cable internet and all the stuff I got here now.