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    I need to talk.

    A few days ago, a random troll arrived and flamed the pavilion extensively. Pretty much everyone online at the time here went over and retaliated. two administrators, Gloomy and myself also went into the fray. Unlike a lot of website owners, I know how to deal with trolls. They want you to get mad. they want you to ban them. they want to really get under your skin. they figure as long as they're essentially annonymous, they have all the power. I turned the troll event into a party. I wanted people here to have fun with it. and they did. we showed the troll the same disrespect he showed us by altering his account, renaming him, listing his e-mail address and IP address in his signature, stuff like that. we took all his power away. he kept at it though, he was dedicated. So I ran the now-publicly available IP address through a whois search and posted the results. bam, instant fear as always. instant regret. shortly after that, he left. people knew who he was now, he had no secrets. THEN he was banned. couldnt take the humiliation that he tried making me feel. pathetic.

    THAT is how we deal with trolls around here. thats how we've done it every time since I took over the site. thats how we'll continue to do it. if you register at the pavilion just to cause trouble, understand that I will show you no respect at all, and post whatever personal information I have available to the public. think twice before you put that info in my hands when registering just to flame us.

    Because of all the crap going on right now in the community over this, public topics have been made about it, and the identity is no longer a secret, so I'll spill. It was "Realitybites". Forum staff member of Doanthenado.com.

    Wait, theres more.

    "-" aka Neonash posted a topic in the imaginari to showcase some comics he made about his workplace. however, there was no information posted along with it. we didnt know what the hell it was, who the people were, or what was supposed to be going on. so yeah, we told him our opinions of it, many basing their opinions on the artistic merit alone. Neonash has flamed this community many times before, so people have a bit of a grudge against him (that is completely warranted) and I'm sure that effected some of their opinions of the comic.

    Nash didnt like this. we're not supposed to voice negative opinions. he posted at doans about it, and a few people over there decided to flame the pavilion because we didnt like his store comic. I closed nash's topic over here and made a big angry post. one I thought was obviously aimed exclusively at the people in the topic I linked to within. such is not the case. some people I highly respect think I was attacking their entire community. had the past week not been such a goddamn mess for me, I may have been able to hold back a bit and make it a bit clearer who I was addressing.

    Anyways, many people (including doan himself) are now in an uproar over how I handled Realitybites, saying I had no right to post such personal information, and then drilling into my comment at the end of nash's topic here assuming I targeted everyone there with it, opposed to the people I actually aimed it at: nash, WilliamKirk (currently named Poop over there. appropriate), and maybe 2 others who were flaming the pavilion and myself because we didnt like his comic.

    Some people who frequented both this site and doan's site have left here as a result. People I respect and would love to be able to call my friends.

    Pavilion flaming happens a lot over there. Doan has told them to stop in the past, and has been ignored, even by his own staff (one of whom stopped by to flame us as previously mentioned). It is my opinion that a website's staff represents that site where ever they may happen to go within that particular community. You make sure your staff... even forum staff, are good people who know how to handle themselves and will reflect well upon your site. Thats what I did. Every single member of the pavilion staff is an outstanding person who would never behave the way nash and realitybites have, either here, or at other RPGM sites. And you know what? thats not exclusive to the staff here. No pavilion members have flamed another RPG Maker site as long as I've been in charge here. No pavilion members have went over and flamed another site on other forums. No pavilion members have ever disrespected other RPGM sites in any way shape or form. But some of doan's members have. Some of doan's staff has. And I'm the one being told that I have no control over his site and forum.

    Yes, pavilion members may occasionally be harsh in their criticism of things, especially when that "thing" comes from nash. This is just how things are. the pavilion isn't like doan's site. its never going to be. its the pavilion is the pavilion. We are the largest, most diverse console RPGM community there is. its only logical then that not everyone is going to reply to game ideas positively. Most people give constructive criticism. some dont. but they're just being themselves, and thats what the pavilion is about. people are free to come here, be themselves, and express themselves however they want. just like in the real world, some people arent going to agree with each other, and some are going to be a bit harsh. if you have a problem with this, why bother stepping foot outside your house every day? the real world can be harsher than people here could ever be concerning your work, your art, your personality.

    This is just how things are. Every site has it's own personality. The mag is a lot like the pavilion, but also often laid back and silly at times. doan's domain is more serious, and almost completely dedicated to game creation. the pavilion is pretty much a bunch of random people coming together to make games, socialize, and show other creative works.

    Everyone has to start/keep respecting the difference in the sites. If you dont like a certain site, stay away from it. Don't go back to whatever site you call home and complain about it, creating a bunch of drama. Just understand that even if you don't, many others happen to like the way that certain site is run, and likes the people there. just because you and a few of your friends don't is no reason to insult it, or invade it.

    It is so pathetic that we have problems like this in a community built around expression and creativity. One would think that this theme would help create extremely strong bonds between the sites within it, especially considering there's pretty much only THREE of them.

    I've said what I wanted to say on the issue. If anyone else would like to comment respectfully, go ahead.




    #2
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    Dang, I alwasy though neonash was kinda cool. This changes my opinion completeley. I guess I never really saw most of his falming comments before, all I remember is he helped me with rpg maker...

    Thanks for the info.
    I was like a Cloud once!!!!

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      #3
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      My opinion of anyone isn't going to change, I think things went down the way they were supposed to because people did stupid things.

      I think you did the right thing Valk. It may not have been easy to accept, but your philosophy was right on the money. It's good that you let everyone know what would happen if they went crazy.
      Quote of the moment - "When you cut down a tree, don't stand near it."

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        #4
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        I'm new to this site but my advice is follow the golden rule of all forums, discussions, conversations, relationships, marriage - basically anything involving people. If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all. It's hard to do sometimes, but it's really the only way you are going to avoid fights on a forum considering you are just dealing with a person's text and it's very easy to misread what someone is saying as you can't see the person's expression and body language.

        And if you do find yourself being critical of someone else's work, do it gently. If your response is something like or to the effect of "It sucks, get over it" then it's you starting the fight. Sugar-coat everything if you want a forum to stay nice.

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          #5
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          Usually, in this case the problem is constructive crticism being given and interpreted as harsh. However, with nashs, he didn't do art, he used pictures or something like that. Thus, art related comments are out. And the dialouge was, as even nash said, related to a inside joke: And if we can't comment on the art or the dialouge, does nash expect us to lie and say we loved it? The fact is, it wasn't as funny to us as it was to Nash, and the whole problem seems to extend from us saying so.

          Can't we all just...get along?

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            #6
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            First of all, I totally agree with how you handled the situation, Valk. I laughed my ass off at the entire "event." I don't feel the least bit sorry for trolls, they have nothing to add to any community.

            Nash has trashed the pavilion and its members many times. His lack of respect for other members is more apparent in his earlier posts, where he calls people names, insults homosexuals, and thumbs his nose at the entire community in general. I don't see why he hasn't been banned for good at this point, but that's not up to me.

            And if you do find yourself being critical of someone else's work, do it gently. If your response is something like or to the effect of "It sucks, get over it" then it's you starting the fight. Sugar-coat everything if you want a forum to stay nice.
            There is a difference between constructive criticism and outright bashing. Nash didn't even draw the comics in question, and they obviously were not that amusing to anyone but himself and his co-workers. If he's willing to insult others for no reason, then he should be able to handle a little criticism on something he put up for public display. If not, he should know better than to post his stuff here.

            Sugar coating everything, at least when it comes to critiques, won't help someone learn how to improve their work. In fact, it seems to have the opposite effect. Sugar coating everything said on this forum would make it bland and un-interesting.
            Eat Smello.

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              #7
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              I think you handled everything well, Valk baby.

              Everyone needs to calm down. It's a forum.

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                #8
                Re: I need to talk.

                I don't see why he hasn't been banned for good at this point, but that's not up to me
                He comes back with new IPs and new accounts. it's pointless to try.



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                  #9
                  Re: I need to talk.

                  So he can't live without us, eh? That's cute.
                  Eat Smello.

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                    #10
                    Re: I need to talk.

                    He deserves everything you throw at him. What ever happened to the thing about being able to sue people who annoyed you online?
                    I was like a Cloud once!!!!

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                      #11
                      Re: I need to talk.

                      unfortunately it only applies to telephone conversations, not the internet.
                      Last edited by Valkysas; 09-05-2006, 06:14 PM.



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                        #12
                        Re: I need to talk.

                        Well said, Valk.

                        I'm sorry I missed the party, but I think you're exactly in the right in your handling of trolls. 90% of trolls are only trolls because they are anonymous. Take away that anonymity and suddenly they realize that trolling isn't a great idea.

                        Besides, it's also a great lesson that as much as we think we're anonymous when we're on the net, we never are. Unless you're using proxies and other such measures, someone will always know who you are, and even with proxies and the like it's still possible to track you down. Trolls should remember that.






                        Plus making fun of trolls is fun.

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                          #13
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                          I agree 100% with Valk that we need to respect each other's communities. I have much respect for the Pavilion, even if I'm not cool with a few people. But I just ignore them. They aren't on my radar.

                          But the flaming invasions NEED TO END. Write about what you think about X community in a blog or something, if you have to.

                          I understand how the invaders feel from experience, but I do not think this is the right way to make it better. Let's talk this stuff out.

                          The main reason beefs start is because one side doesn't know the other and doesn't want to. I will never do that again. Talk it out and squash it, y'all.

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                            #14
                            Re: I need to talk.

                            Just a little update.

                            Realitybites has decided to threaten legal action against me for releasing his IP and e-mail address to the public, despite us not having a privacy policy against that sort of thing.

                            Doan refuses to see that his members have done anything wrong in these incidents.

                            So I'm done with it. I'm taking my own advice. I'm leaving that site, never going back. I'm also banning nash (and he better stay gone), and if people want to leave this site because of that, fine. it won't phase me one bit.
                            Last edited by Valkysas; 09-05-2006, 05:27 PM.



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                              #15
                              Re: I need to talk.

                              I couldn't have handled it any better myself, Valk. While I do have a strong tolerance, for the most part, the trolls and flamers as of late have got under my skin. They act like complete assholes then get mad at us when we retaliate. It is human nature to push back. Though, I do agree that it is usually best to talk things out rather than going wild with punches... this didn't work out I'm afraid. Some people are too damn stubborn to listen to reason.
                              I had to change accounts. I'm here now - http://www.pavilionboards.com/forum/member.php?u=1475

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