As you probably already know, I'm a very elusive person. I lurk, mostly. I speak rarely, and usually only when I really want to. As a result, it might seem as though I can be insightful.
I graduated (actually, I didn't earn enough credits to do so) from high school this past year, and I've spent most of the summer in a gradual attempt to move into a new home. The past few years of my life are kind of a long story--my mother died my sophomore year, and my father was imprisoned for her murder (There was no animosity. This was a bizarre snap of insanity brought on by his severe depression after losing his job. He was being medicated, apparently with the same stuff as the columbine kids.) I lived with my sister for a while after that, but she started letting her boyfriend run her life and her finances (I don't think she's ever gotten over my mom's death, and she was unready and unwilling to take all the responsibilities she had thrust on her. She's my older sister, but I'm often more on-the-ball than she is.) The house I was living in got to be pretty ratty, too, because of her boyfriend's weird, paranoid pack-ratty behavior. It was past the point where I could sanely do anything about it after he'd been living there less than a year. I took some pictures, and I guess if I found a scanner I could show them. I moved out just about three months ago, (I was lucky enough to be in a fairly close-knit preppy-type catholic school. There's only about 1000 students, and a lot of faculty support. I asked around, and eventually got someone I knew whose house I could move into briefly. I'm typing this on their computer.) and tommorrow, I need to move out.
I've still got more dealings with my sister and her boyfriend, though--the house I want to live in is co-owned with my sister (my late grandparents' home), and earlier this year, she okayed a lease for her boyfriend's family ("Boyfriend's Mom," "Boyfriend's Neglected and Weird Adopted Siblings," & "Boyfriend's Mom's Money-Taking Boyfriend") to live in that house, and they've made no effort to leave (they've had since June 1st, didn't find anywhere to move to. didn't even start packing), despite the attorney I've hired
to speed the process up. They take no action to leave because my sister and her boyfriend make it too easy on them (for example: In response to my getting an attorney, my sister panicked and spent $4000 dollars on a house downpayment for these people and rented the moving truck for them, which she and her boyfriend will use to do most of the moving themselves.) These people expect her to pick up after them--I've tried to explain this many times and on similar occasions, but my sister has put herself too deeply into this co-dependent mess with her boyfriend to make sense of what I have to say.
Unless the house is vacant by Friday, July 1st (the legal deadline), I'll be living in a hotel for a while. It is frustrating, but I've dealt with stuff like this with from my sister for a few years now, and I expected things to turn out this way. Because I have legal backing, it can't be postponed indefinitely. It would have been nice not to have needed to resort to such measures, though.
There's a lot more stuff like this that's been going on with this same wonderful cast over the past few years that I won't go even bother going into now. I will say that despite how difficult things may seem for me, I am optimistic about this situation, and my future. I don't expect big things--only what I need.
I may not be anywhere near an internet-equipped computer for a long while, so don't worry if you don't hear anything from me.
P.S.
I just discovered I had a mailbox here... whee.
I graduated (actually, I didn't earn enough credits to do so) from high school this past year, and I've spent most of the summer in a gradual attempt to move into a new home. The past few years of my life are kind of a long story--my mother died my sophomore year, and my father was imprisoned for her murder (There was no animosity. This was a bizarre snap of insanity brought on by his severe depression after losing his job. He was being medicated, apparently with the same stuff as the columbine kids.) I lived with my sister for a while after that, but she started letting her boyfriend run her life and her finances (I don't think she's ever gotten over my mom's death, and she was unready and unwilling to take all the responsibilities she had thrust on her. She's my older sister, but I'm often more on-the-ball than she is.) The house I was living in got to be pretty ratty, too, because of her boyfriend's weird, paranoid pack-ratty behavior. It was past the point where I could sanely do anything about it after he'd been living there less than a year. I took some pictures, and I guess if I found a scanner I could show them. I moved out just about three months ago, (I was lucky enough to be in a fairly close-knit preppy-type catholic school. There's only about 1000 students, and a lot of faculty support. I asked around, and eventually got someone I knew whose house I could move into briefly. I'm typing this on their computer.) and tommorrow, I need to move out.
I've still got more dealings with my sister and her boyfriend, though--the house I want to live in is co-owned with my sister (my late grandparents' home), and earlier this year, she okayed a lease for her boyfriend's family ("Boyfriend's Mom," "Boyfriend's Neglected and Weird Adopted Siblings," & "Boyfriend's Mom's Money-Taking Boyfriend") to live in that house, and they've made no effort to leave (they've had since June 1st, didn't find anywhere to move to. didn't even start packing), despite the attorney I've hired
to speed the process up. They take no action to leave because my sister and her boyfriend make it too easy on them (for example: In response to my getting an attorney, my sister panicked and spent $4000 dollars on a house downpayment for these people and rented the moving truck for them, which she and her boyfriend will use to do most of the moving themselves.) These people expect her to pick up after them--I've tried to explain this many times and on similar occasions, but my sister has put herself too deeply into this co-dependent mess with her boyfriend to make sense of what I have to say. Unless the house is vacant by Friday, July 1st (the legal deadline), I'll be living in a hotel for a while. It is frustrating, but I've dealt with stuff like this with from my sister for a few years now, and I expected things to turn out this way. Because I have legal backing, it can't be postponed indefinitely. It would have been nice not to have needed to resort to such measures, though.
There's a lot more stuff like this that's been going on with this same wonderful cast over the past few years that I won't go even bother going into now. I will say that despite how difficult things may seem for me, I am optimistic about this situation, and my future. I don't expect big things--only what I need.
I may not be anywhere near an internet-equipped computer for a long while, so don't worry if you don't hear anything from me.
P.S.
I just discovered I had a mailbox here... whee.
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