I Have Lost My Girlfriend

[Alex]

But I have found a roommate with benefits.




Relationships are fun. For a while. Then they're just depressing.

I don't think I'll ever be satisfied with any of my relationships
for any substantial amount of time before the romance dies
and boredom kicks in, leaving me feeling guilty about the
whole thing and obligated to stay in to keep the other person
happy and avoid confrontation.

I don't think moving in together is a good idea, either.

Sorry, I just need somewhere to get things off my chest.
I've been feeling pretty down in the dumps lately,
and as sad as endings are, this new beginning of my life
has me feeling kind of positive.

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Can romance last forever?
Can two people spend every day together without one or both getting tired?
Are long-term relationships just feats of endurance and patience?

[Funk]

Re: I Have Lost My Girlfriend

There will always be trials and tribulations in any relationship, but it doesn't take a miracle for two people to enjoy a lifetime together. I'm certain that I'll be with Blackberry forever.

[jacquel]

Re: I Have Lost My Girlfriend

If I'm understanding this right, that you're screw-buds moving in together...

dear god don't. That voice thats telling you it will turn to **** that you're maybe ignoring, thinking the two of you will sort out any awkwardness, keep in check any undue emotions, etc? Listen to that voice.

[Alex]

Re: I Have Lost My Girlfriend

We live together. She's moving out when she can afford it.

There is no voice. I've done it before without any awkwardness.

[d2king10]

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I think they can last as long as both of you are willing/wanting them to last. It is as simple as that, if you get bored with them, then there is probably a good reason it turned out that way, but it doesn't mean the next person will be boring after a period of time (she may just tickle your fancy in certain ways others cannot).

[Caciss]

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I don't know, to me it seems a bit ridiculous to make a life long commitment with someone.

[DarkwingChuck]

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From what I've seen the excitement always wears off eventually. Then it's a matter of whether you enjoy the person enough that you still want to stick with them rather than go find something exciting and new. Personally, I agree with Caciss (throws up in mouth a little) life long commitments don't make sense to me. As long as you're both happy you'll stay in the relationship whether you've made any formal commitment or not. So it really only comes into play when one of you wants to end it, in which case I don't see why you should feel obligated to stay just because at one time you thought it'd last forever.

[DK]

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I think you guys are all jaded~

[Nixon]

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Smurtle - I'm sorry that things didn't work out, but I'm glad you're moving on and finally feeling a bit better. Ending any relationship can make you feel pretty worthless.

As for the topic you raised:

I don't expect anything to last forever. Thus, I don't believe in marriage. I don't need some archaic contract to prove/justify my love. If I love someone, it's with all my heart. I am faithful to them. They know how I feel.

I think some people can live together just fine. Others, not so much. It depends on the couple. Some people (often, the creative ones) need more space and more alone time.

My personal opinion (which may not be yours!) is that good long term relationships are based on a very strong friendship, and a good sexual relationship strengthens that bond.

[American Hero]

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You guys suck, doesn't anyone believe in love anymore!?

[Nixon]

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What do you know about love and relationships? How much experience do you have with relationships? Ever been in a long-term relationship?

[Adrian Foley]

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Smurtle - I'm sorry that things didn't work out, but I'm glad you're moving on and finally feeling a bit better. Ending any relationship can make you feel pretty worthless.

As for the topic you raised:

I don't expect anything to last forever. Thus, I don't believe in marriage. I don't need some archaic contract to prove/justify my love. If I love someone, it's with all my heart. I am faithful to them. They know how I feel.

I think some people can live together just fine. Others, not so much. It depends on the couple. Some people (often, the creative ones) need more space and more alone time.

My personal opinion (which may not be yours!) is that good long term relationships are based on a very strong friendship, and a good sexual relationship strengthens that bond.

What about marriage for tax benefits?

[Nixon]

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I joked with my friend that the only reason I'd get married is for a tax break.

[Toaster]

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I think you guys are all jaded~

We're realists.

[Sejon]

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I have a purely pragmatic reason to get married too!