I'm Depressed...

[Sivart the Sloth Trencher]

My great aunt died recently of cancer. Normally, something like this would make me a little sad, but I've been thinking about for a couple of days now. My grandmother on my mom's side died of cancer back when I was 8. I was devastated that not only was she dead, but my grandmother on my dad's side had died a few years back. Well... The cancer that my grandma died of is the same cancer that her sister just died of. This worries me. I fear that my mom will have to suffer this same fate...

[sleepywolf]

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Man..I'm sorry about all that, it's sad : (

My Grandparents , as well as an aunt, have all died from Diabetes...I too am scared it might go down the line

[Libby]

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I'm so sorry. I know how it feels to loose a great aunt to cancer. It hurt, but its something that will heal in time. I hope everything goes well with you, and you know if you need anything from anyone at the Pav, don't hesitate to ask.

[Ωbright]

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[Bon]

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Tell your mom to get tested now. If she has cancer, and it's in its early stages, she can get it treated quickly and continue life normally.

Feel better, man.

[Sivart the Sloth Trencher]

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What really bugs me is that I'm a late child. My mom's in her fifties which means that not only is she much closer to the age of when it affects you, but if she does die, then I'll have spent much less time with her than my sisters did.

[Karr Lord of Chaos]

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if your mother isnt doing it already, then convince her to get checkups more often. her children are the greatest influence. if you catch cancer early then you have a much higher chance of defeating it.

[facts]

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from my expercience, cancer usually isn't genetic.

I was the first person in my whole entire family tree to ever get cancer, so it obviously wasn't genetic in my family.

Anyway your mom should get a checkup just to be on the safe side.

[Sivart the Sloth Trencher]

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You have cancer? Actually, I'm pretty sure this one can be genetic. It's... Well I can't spell it. Cancer of the... bah. Pancreous? I wonder how badly I botched up the spelling.

[highwind]

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My suggestion would be to read up about it. Learn about it. See if diet or anything can effect or aid in prevention.

Read.

[Sivart the Sloth Trencher]

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Reading is good. I like to read. Thanks for all of the help guys. I really had a tough day today and everything sort of just hit me all at once. Doesn't help that depression COULD run in the family, since my sister is clincally depressed. ...At least one really good thing happened today.

[Libby]

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I wish that my family was the "usually" in the "cancer isn't genetic." My grandfather was one of five boys and all but one of them have died of cancer. My dad has to get tested yearly.

But, I wouldn't worry too much. I know I am just repeating what I said before, but if your mother is diligent and keeps an eye on it, I am sure she'll be okay. The main thing right now is to be there for your family, and remember that it can only get better.

Silly quote that I heard somewhere, but it always helps me. "Someone told me once that everything was going to be okay when it was all over. And if it wasn't okay, then it wasn't over."

I hope it helps.

[Sivart the Sloth Trencher]

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Ok, I'm depressed again. I feel like crap, I want to go to sleep, I want to stay at home, I want to play video games but none of them seem interesting anymore, I'm getting much angrier when I mess up in a video game, hardly anyone's on the Pav atm, and I've been really edgey/emotional all day. ...I need help.

[altoecko]

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Talking about it is your best bet with these sort of things. Depression is often at times anger turned inward. Don't get angry at yourself because you don't have much power over this stuff, you have a lot more power than you think. My mother is dying rather slowly of Lupus but we stick through it together, she may also get cancer as MANY members of her family have gotten/died of cancer. Two auto-immune deficiencies in one body is a terrible thing. She used to have ovary cancer but she had them removed, but who knows if it already spread to other parts of her body? Listen buddy, unless you're a wonderful advanced bio-medical chemist with unlimited funding you can't cure mom if she has cancer. But you can wage a small battle on it none the less. Like Highwind said, read about Pancreatic cancer, find it's rate of being genetic and talk to your mom about your concerns. She'll appreciate the thought and you two can work through this together. If you ever need to talk, send me an e-mail at altoecko@gmail.com I'm always willing to hep however I can.

[Sivart the Sloth Trencher]

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It's not only the cancer anymore. Everything seems to be bringing me down. I sometimes struggle to maintain a relationship with my friends. I have trouble communicatings with my girlfriend, I'm messing up in school when I know I shouldn't be, and to top it all, Most people I know are getting new stuff all the time, but I can't fund my own luxuries. It's all just piling on top of me.