Dealing with others in the home?

[Crimson Knight]

My family. I have compassion for them(to say that I love them would be lying... hey, at least I'm being honest!) but in many cases, they anger me to no end, and it's a surprise I'm still here with them, dealing with their various nuances today. But while I'm dealing with the plague that is the gene pool, I thought I'd ask you guys that may be living with other people for one reason or another...

How do you deal with people who frequently tick you off? Maybe someone can assist me or anyone else having similar situations.

[Armored]

Re: Dealing with others in the home?

I live by myself, and i'm pretty awesome.

[goldgecko4]

Re: Dealing with others in the home?

Move out.

Or, if that's not an option, realize a few things about yourself, first:

a) Not everyone feels the same about things as you might. That's life. Accept their differences and learn from them.

b) Chances are, your family doesn't share your interests. That's cool. Don't expect them to right away, if ever. Instead, show some interest in theirs. You'd be amazed at how well I get along with my step dad after I volunteered to wax his boat, and then learned how to drive it. It might be the only thing we can talk about for now, but it always leads into comfortable, long conversations about things we never thought we could agree on.

c) Concede. Sorry, but when it comes to family, just roll with it. What they mean to you, and, more importantly, you to them is far more than petty differences. If one of your relatives says something you think is ignorant or unintelligent, just say "oh, really?" and ignore it... believe me, it saves a lifetime of hard feelings.

[peachy]

Re: Dealing with others in the home?

My family. I have compassion for them(to say that I love them would be lying... hey, at least I'm being honest!) but in many cases, they anger me to no end, and it's a surprise I'm still here with them, dealing with their various nuances today. But while I'm dealing with the plague that is the gene pool, I thought I'd ask you guys that may be living with other people for one reason or another...

How do you deal with people who frequently tick you off? Maybe someone can assist me or anyone else having similar situations.

JLIG

[Stormy]

Re: Dealing with others in the home?

Sometimes you just gotta roll with the punches. You don't have to comment on everything they say, thus you will avoid a fight and further agitation. If they really bug you that much, move out at your first convenience.

[Biggie]

Re: Dealing with others in the home?

I lived my own for almost a year, and moved back in with my Dad last Fall.

I get along with my Dad just fine.

But my sister Brit though, dear lord, shes one doodoo head dummy.

[Nixon]

Re: Dealing with others in the home?

I stayed with my dad and my step-mom for a while during college. My step-mom kinda drove me nuts after a while. So my solution was to find a work schedule where I didn't have to see her as much.

During the summer/various breaks, I would work from the afternoons until the late evening, and then come home and crash until after she'd left for work. It was nice.

[Denmo]

Re: Dealing with others in the home?

Families are meant to tick each other off, the same way students hate their teachers, kids hate their parents, brothers hate sisters, etc. It's perfectly normal to be extremely annoyed with the people you've lived with for the past 18 years or so. I come from a large family, so I know first hand.

Best thing you can do to make it easier on yourself and them is to just be nice about it until you fly the coop. And if being nice doesn't work, do what Nix said and try to get out of the house more often.

You may find that once you're not around them, you start to miss them.

[Shard]

Re: Dealing with others in the home?

If moving out isn't an option, Nixon's suggestion was spot on. I found my family much more tolerable when I didn't have to spend every waking moment with them. Do what you can to secure your own time and space away from them. Note that I'm not advocating you shut them out of your life completely.

If I could find a reason to leave when I first recognized I was getting aggravated, it was much better for everyone involved. Try to leave when things are still pretty chill; storming out after a fight or something just ensures you come home to all the **** you didn't want to deal with in the first place.

[highwind]

Re: Dealing with others in the home?

Families are meant to tick each other off, the same way students hate their teachers, kids hate their parents, brothers hate sisters, etc. It's perfectly normal to be extremely annoyed with the people you've lived with for the past 18 years or so. I come from a large family, so I know first hand.

Best thing you can do to make it easier on yourself and them is to just be nice about it until you fly the coop. And if being nice doesn't work, do what Nix said and try to get out of the house more often.

You may find that once you're not around them, you start to miss them.

How many siblings do you actually have?

[Fushigi na Renamon]

Re: Dealing with others in the home?

My Mom is cool and all, but being around her all the time drove me nuts.

So I moved out. Problem solved! It is the best thing I ever did and I am very happy.

[sleepywolf]

Re: Dealing with others in the home?

Man, I'm turning 19 in a week or two, and I still am livin with my family and have no money saved up whatsoever to move out...I guess my only advice for u is to become a robot around them, just ignore any feelings that might surface when talkin to them(harder than it sounds), or just become a
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hikikomori XD

[Seraph]

Re: Dealing with others in the home?

I just punch my wife in the box when she starts ******* me off.

[Crimson Knight]

Re: Dealing with others in the home?

I just punch my wife in the box when she starts ******* me off.

Best advice I've heard all day!

I live by myself, and i'm pretty awesome.

*facepalmz*

If moving out isn't an option, Nixon's suggestion was spot on. I found my family much more tolerable when I didn't have to spend every waking moment with them. Do what you can to secure your own time and space away from them. Note that I'm not advocating you shut them out of your life completely.

If I could find a reason to leave when I first recognized I was getting aggravated, it was much better for everyone involved. Try to leave when things are still pretty chill; storming out after a fight or something just ensures you come home to all the **** you didn't want to deal with in the first place.

I'm guilty of making that happen more than once.

Best thing you can do to make it easier on yourself and them is to just be nice about it until you fly the coop. And if being nice doesn't work, do what Nix said and try to get out of the house more often.

You may find that once you're not around them, you start to miss them.

I was gone from them for a year, and I was fine. Hardly missed the turds. I mean they were in my thoughts sometimes, but I was too busy eating exotic food, drinking myself silly and hitting on spanish barmaids to give a ****.

Move out.

I would spickety lickt, but I wanna go to college too. I can't do both unfortunately.

Thanks for the advice though, everyone, I appreciate it whole-heartedly. Getting out isn't the problem, so much as finding more space than just the regular guys' night out. But I've recognized some common problem areas, and while they'll take balls to fix 'em, I can do it. Thanks again everyone.

[gray]

Re: Dealing with others in the home?

remember all the times they changed your ****ty diaper ass and kept you from drinking paint, and cut them some ****ing slack!




obviously dosn't count for your siblings. screw them