I need to vent

[Misty]

My boyfriend and I got into a huge fight just now. I’m an emotional wreck. I need to vent, so if you don’t want to listen to this, you don’t have to. I just need a place where I can let something out.

I don’t know what happened, but he accused me of cheating on him with a few male friends. I didn’t—I told him I wasn’t the type of girl to do that—they’re friends I knew since childhood. Then he starts getting mad at me and calling me a ***** and all these names. This just happened so suddenly—I don’t know what I did wrong or what I did to get him angry and call me these names like that

I have a right to hang out with my other friends and, even though my bf and I have been together for two years and I try to give him our time together, he has no right to control my life nor does he have the right to call me names and ****ing disrespect me the way he did—I go through enough **** already I don’t need it from someone I care about

I’m so angry and sad right now I can’t even type right—look at all my grammatical errors and mistakes I’m making

I’m sorry, you guys – you don’t have to give me sympathy or anything. I just wanted to vent my feelings. If this is not the place for me to do it, then I’m sorry—you can lock this thread or delete it ok?

I’m sorry everyone.

[Czechs Mex]

Re: I need to vent

I don't think you made any major grammatical errors.

But altoecko's about to spell "not" wrong.

[altoecko]

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Often at times boyfriends don't realize just how controling they're being. I'm nto sure why he'd call you those names, but one reason why he may be jealous is because of faulty logic. He figures you'd rather spend more time with people you like better, so he thinks you don't like him as much as those you're hanging out with. It seems stupid, but it's very easy to start thinking that when you're in love. Love is an excuse to ignore all rational thinking at times. I suggest you call him and ask him why he would think something so absurd all of a sudden. Perhaps someone near to you planted the seed of doubt, who knows. If this is an ongoing jealousy thing, then I suggest you evaluate just how much you love him(If you do at all), and tell him how much you do, but that he's testing those bonds with accussing you of such hurtful things. Hope this helped some.

[irate giraffe]

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I just drank a lot of tequila but that should be ok since this is a venting thread.

First of, **** THAT ****. It's call ****ing communication. It obviously ain't working. All to common. Let that asshat know you deserve all the time you want with your friends. He should be lucky to have you at all, right? Then, he'll tell you all about how you should be spending time with him, if you really love him. It'll go back and forth for centuries since the root of the problem is you two not communicating well enough. And instead of actually opening up to one another, you each make heartless, mean accusations.

The easy way out would be to either have make-up sex, act like it didn't happen until it happens again, or just DTMF and GTFO.

If you don't want to do either of those because of blah blah blah then good luck cause it sounds like you're in a relationship that's gonna take a lot of work. And it's probably not worth it.

[Jamos]

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That asshole!

*pops knuckles*

Maybe I should make him an offer he can't refuse.

[DK]

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If this is something new I wouldn't be going for the throat just yet, especially if you guys have been going out for 2 years without this happening. Maybe something is going on in his life.

[Libby]

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Word to the wise. If your boyfriend has enough balls to call you a *****, he's not worth it. I've had my fair share of fights with my boyfriend along the same lines, and he has NEVER called me any sort of harsh name like that. You are too sweet to have that happen to you. If he is accusing you, then force him to prove it. Don't let him walk all over you, because it gives him power, even if he doesn't realize what he is doing. Two years or not, if he cannot trust you after this long, something is not clicking. If you have to leave him, remember that you can do much better.

You can always find better.

And if you need to talk to another woman to vent, give me a PM and we can chat.

[irate giraffe]

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Word to the wise: Ignore everything ^ said.

[Syvarius]

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...

And how is that wise?

[Valkysas]

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I agree with Libra.

[Vonwert]

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I also agree with Libby.

I would make sure you have a long talk with him and get to the root of the problem.

If he refuses to listen or explain himself, then it is up to you to decide to stay or not.

[Jamos]

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As do I. Very sound advise.

[Fushigi na Renamon]

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I'm really sorry to hear that this happened.

What Libra said is absolutely right: If he's going to call you names like that, then he isn't worth it. You do not have to take that sort of abuse. *pats*

[altoecko]

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Never respond to violence or hostility with more violence and hostility. I promise you, it never works. Try and be as calm as possible and ask him why he would think such a thing. You've been with him for 2 years, it sounds like you really care about him. If you trully do then talk to him calmly about this.

EDIT - I'm going to have to disagree with Fushigi and Libra. It may not be his fault he called you such things, I'm sure you've called him harsh things when you were angry once too.

[irate giraffe]

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Yeah, why is everyone taking the chick's side?